darksabre Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 My kid stopped eating. She can't tell us why and we can't figure it out. Finally had to take her to a Gastro on Monday. She went from 75lbs to under 60lbs in a month and we have a bag packed in case there is an ER visit in our future. Yesterday, we figured out that she has a really bad urinary tract infection and started antibiotics. After a month of weighing her every morning and seeing a lower number day after day, she actually had almost a full meal last night (maybe her first in a month) and we at least saw the same number two days in a row. Hoping that this is the turning point and she starts to gain it back, but trying to not get too excited in case the UTI is just a red herring and actually has nothing to do with her appetite. Fingers crossed. Oh, and I, too, have co-workers that are completely useless and every time they ###### up, it makes it even harder for me to get a day off. Lazy stupid ######. Hope your kid gets better Swamp.
SwampD Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Hope your kid gets better Swamp. Thanks. My biggest complaint this week, though, is that I was out of town during PA's return to the board. Welcome back, PA.
josie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Not trying to belittle your situation, but at least she's passionate about something. I'm fine with her being passionate about animal welfare/rights/her dietary habits. I know a lot of vegans. But this lady goes too far. When we first met it came up how I used to spend every Saturday volunteering at the horse rescue. She then goes "oh thank goodness, I was afraid you'd be another meat eater. I just hate them. I can't get along with any carnies, they're just bankrupt morally and cannot give me any good arguments as to why they do what they do". I... didn't correct her. I warned the boss, too. Don't. Order. Food. Around. Her. She'll ask you what you're eating and then ask to know the ingredients. It's passion that has crossed into being obnoxious. She shares things online frequently about how meat eaters should die, etc. Like, I get it, I to some part agree, factory farming is bad, the environment does suffer... but when you post memes that show Africa fu*king blotted out with text "Change the continent of Africa to herbivore grazing lands and have everyone be a vegtarian"and when someone comments "where are the Africans going" and she responds "They're all meat eaters, they can die, world would be better without them". Anyways. All small irritating potatoes in the grand scheme of things. Best of luck to you and yours, Swamp.
Drunkard Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'm fine with her being passionate about animal welfare/rights/her dietary habits. I know a lot of vegans. But this lady goes too far. When we first met it came up how I used to spend every Saturday volunteering at the horse rescue. She then goes "oh thank goodness, I was afraid you'd be another meat eater. I just hate them. I can't get along with any carnies, they're just bankrupt morally and cannot give me any good arguments as to why they do what they do". I... didn't correct her. I warned the boss, too. Don't. Order. Food. Around. Her. She'll ask you what you're eating and then ask to know the ingredients. It's passion that has crossed into being obnoxious. She shares things online frequently about how meat eaters should die, etc. Like, I get it, I to some part agree, factory farming is bad, the environment does suffer... but when you post memes that show Africa fu*king blotted out with text "Change the continent of Africa to herbivore grazing lands and have everyone be a vegtarian"and when someone comments "where are the Africans going" and she responds "They're all meat eaters, they can die, world would be better without them". Anyways. All small irritating potatoes in the grand scheme of things. Best of luck to you and yours, Swamp. Sounds like you should unfollow her on twitter or unfriend her on Facebook. Then you don't have to see the nonsense. Problem solved.
SwampD Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'm fine with her being passionate about animal welfare/rights/her dietary habits. I know a lot of vegans. But this lady goes too far. When we first met it came up how I used to spend every Saturday volunteering at the horse rescue. She then goes "oh thank goodness, I was afraid you'd be another meat eater. I just hate them. I can't get along with any carnies, they're just bankrupt morally and cannot give me any good arguments as to why they do what they do". I... didn't correct her. I warned the boss, too. Don't. Order. Food. Around. Her. She'll ask you what you're eating and then ask to know the ingredients. It's passion that has crossed into being obnoxious. She shares things online frequently about how meat eaters should die, etc. Like, I get it, I to some part agree, factory farming is bad, the environment does suffer... but when you post memes that show Africa fu*king blotted out with text "Change the continent of Africa to herbivore grazing lands and have everyone be a vegtarian"and when someone comments "where are the Africans going" and she responds "They're all meat eaters, they can die, world would be better without them". Anyways. All small irritating potatoes in the grand scheme of things. Best of luck to you and yours, Swamp. Thanks, Jo. That lady and others like her really are just awful. Here's my good argument to her,"Cuz it's delicious!!!"
darksabre Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'll come to a class at the studio wearing a belly shirt and eating a pepperoni stick.
josie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Sounds like you should unfollow her on twitter or unfriend her on Facebook. Then you don't have to see the nonsense. Problem solved. I unfollowed her on FB after the one I mentioned. She's the sort of person who gets confrontational/upset if she finds you unfriended her. May I remind you she's 39. Boss is sitting her down soon to have a talk. She's been coldly polite lately because she thinks all the problems she's getting feedback on are me narcing on her. Nope, sweetie, we've been getting emails from clients... I've actually been standing up for her on some things... Man.... I'mma go have a juicy steak and contribute to the fall of mankind. I'll come to a class at the studio wearing a belly shirt and eating a pepperoni stick. Next week's complaint. d4rk is parading his hairy gut around eating meat sticks and loudly belching... I had to call 911 when my coworker's head exploded...
josie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 New complaint. Just saw dudacek's masterpiece in the WTF thread. Complaint is I didn't see it sooner. <3
Drunkard Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I unfollowed her on FB after the one I mentioned. She's the sort of person who gets confrontational/upset if she finds you unfriended her. May I remind you she's 39. Boss is sitting her down soon to have a talk. She's been coldly polite lately because she thinks all the problems she's getting feedback on are me narcing on her. Nope, sweetie, we've been getting emails from clients... I've actually been standing up for her on some things... Man.... I'mma go have a juicy steak and contribute to the fall of mankind. Next week's complaint. d4rk is parading his hairy gut around eating meat sticks and loudly belching... I had to call 911 when my coworker's head exploded... Try telling her the truth. You unfriended her because you were tired of reading about her judgmental tirades. You don't need/want it in your life and you're a meat eater to boot. What's the worst thing that could happen? Even if she did something crazy like spray painting cow murderer on your car it would get her fired and then you don't have to deal with her anymore. If she took the less crazy approach and just stopped talking to you altogether that would probably be a good thing as well. I can see putting up with nonsense from a boss or a family member, but sounds like this lady is just a colleague though, so you shouldn't feel obligated to placate her.
josie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Try telling her the truth. You unfriended her because you were tired of reading about her judgmental tirades. You don't need/want it in your life and you're a meat eater to boot. What's the worst thing that could happen? Even if she did something crazy like spray painting cow murderer on your car it would get her fired and then you don't have to deal with her anymore. If she took the less crazy approach and just stopped talking to you altogether that would probably be a good thing as well. I can see putting up with nonsense from a boss or a family member, but sounds like this lady is just a colleague though, so you shouldn't feel obligated to placate her. You're right. I'm just bad at confrontation. I'm just nice to her and keep topics to enjoyable things like aerial or the weather or music. If she ever does come after me with vegan stuff, I have some arguments ready. Most of them being "I work with you in a professional capacity and you have no right to disrespect me if it is not directly harming you or the business. If I want to raise and slaughter human babies in my own time or test their microwave times or run over human beings with steamrollers, you have nothing to do with it". I did dress her down for her no-show last weekend. She just "forgot because I was so in the moment teaching yoga and we all went to the buffalo film festival and omg it was so amazing you should've gone". It's honestly almost amusing at this point, if it wasn't bad for the business.
Drunkard Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 You're right. I'm just bad at confrontation. I'm just nice to her and keep topics to enjoyable things like aerial or the weather or music. If she ever does come after me with vegan stuff, I have some arguments ready. Most of them being "I work with you in a professional capacity and you have no right to disrespect me if it is not directly harming you or the business. If I want to raise and slaughter human babies in my own time or test their microwave times or run over human beings with steamrollers, you have nothing to do with it". I did dress her down for her no-show last weekend. She just "forgot because I was so in the moment teaching yoga and we all went to the buffalo film festival and omg it was so amazing you should've gone". It's honestly almost amusing at this point, if it wasn't bad for the business. Good luck with that. Based on the way you've described her you probably won't get very far trying to reason with her but I guess it's worth a shot. One of the only real benefits to getting older for me is realizing that I don't have to make time for people who add nothing to my life. I no longer let people like that (regardless of their views) get me bogged down in their nonsense or agendas and it's made me a much happier person. Life's too short to waste it on people who don't add value to your existence or experiences.
SwampD Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'm finding it rather unfortunate that I refered to a female urinary tract infection as a red herring.
Sabres Fan in NS Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 The healthcare system in Canada in general and in NS in particular ... it is somewhat better in other provinces, notably BC and Quebec. My wife has severe health issues that I have mentioned from time to time on here. She has an appointment with one of her Neurologists this coming Monday (16th) at 4:00 PM. She has been waiting a year. Anyway, she called to confirm her appointment on Tuesday as instructed. Of course, one can never actually speak with a real person and must leave a message. This morning someone called back and left a message (my wife often can't get to the phone) and said ... 'thank you for confirming your appointment for Monday the 16th at 4:00 PM. We have to change that appointment, since the Dr. is always in the hospital in the afternoon, to 11:20 AM on Monday the 16th'. No regard for the patient at all and what is involved in actually getting her to the appointment. And no regard to any conflicts in our schedule ... my wife often makes other appointments to see specialists on the same day as other appointments, as it is very difficult for her to get out to them ... the whole 2 birds thing. And spare me with the ... 'at least you don't have to pay in Canada' ... we pay alright, a whole hell of a lot. Thank you for listing we now return you to your regular scheduled ranting and raving about the Sabres.
WildCard Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Some country has to have health care down right, right?
josie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'm finding it rather unfortunate that I refered to a female urinary tract infection as a red herring. :w00t: oh my god amazing
Doohicksie Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 (edited) You're right. I'm just bad at confrontation. I'm just nice to her and keep topics to enjoyable things like aerial or the weather or music. If she ever does come after me with vegan stuff, I have some arguments ready. Most of them being "I work with you in a professional capacity and you have no right to disrespect me if it is not directly harming you or the business. If I want to raise and slaughter human babies in my own time or test their microwave times or run over human beings with steamrollers, you have nothing to do with it". I did dress her down for her no-show last weekend. She just "forgot because I was so in the moment teaching yoga and we all went to the buffalo film festival and omg it was so amazing you should've gone". It's honestly almost amusing at this point, if it wasn't bad for the business. You can be "professional" with a coworker and hate their guts. It happens, and that's part of what being a professional is. However, I think you're confusing standing up for yourself and confrontation. Remember that your diet and other personal things are just that: Personal. Insofar as it is legal, you don't have to hide your personal life from your coworkers. Eat meat if that's what you want to eat, and don't worry about hiding it from vegan coworkers. That's their issue, not yours. If she gets confrontational about it, just shut her down: "I'm not discussing it with you and it's not work related, so please don't discuss it with me." You don't have to explain or justify yourself any further. I heard somewhere that when you decline an invitation, it's best to simply decline. You don't have to explain why you're not coming, just that you're not coming. There's a similar principle going on here- you don't have to defend yourself to others, but neither do you need to conform to their desires for your life. Edited October 12, 2017 by Doohickie
Sabres Fan in NS Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 I'm finding it rather unfortunate that I refered to a female urinary tract infection as a red herring. :w00t: You are awesome and your post is awesome. Your daughters health issues ... :( :wub: Some country has to have health care down right, right? Norway and many other European countries do a much better job of it than NA countries.
qwksndmonster Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 (edited) Oh man Josie, what a sketch you've drawn (edit: I'm so sorry for this pun). The Florida Georgia Line song is the icing for me. That's amazing. I have an annoying grown-ass-woman-child co-worker who started a few weeks ago. She feels the need to say something to me every single time we pass one another. She's the kind of person who will do the slightest thing and then tell everyone about it in search for praise. She chipped away at my work-persona today. She gave me some small, inconsequential information and then was all "Aren't you glad I'm here? What would you do without me?" On autopilot, I sarcastically responded "You really change the quality of my life." and it really bothered her. She's tryna play it off like it was just a funny joke between friends but... yeah. I can't deal with her constant insecurity and need for reassurance. I hope little Swamp feels better soon :( Edited October 12, 2017 by qwksndmonster
LTS Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Wow.. I don't know that I've ever popped into this thread before.. believe it. I sure hadn't posted before. So, if any of you want to hire me out to be confrontational for you I'll give you a discount on my posted rates. Hell, if it's good enough I might even go pro bono. For Josie's alt-right vegan yoga instructor... the work I could do. That one might be a freebie.
Samson's Flow Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 Wow.. I don't know that I've ever popped into this thread before.. believe it. I sure hadn't posted before. So, if any of you want to hire me out to be confrontational for you I'll give you a discount on my posted rates. Hell, if it's good enough I might even go pro bono. For Josie's alt-right vegan yoga instructor... the work I could do. That one might be a freebie. You know where to find her. Nobody is stopping you :flirt:
biodork Posted October 12, 2017 Report Posted October 12, 2017 My kid stopped eating. She can't tell us why and we can't figure it out. Finally had to take her to a Gastro on Monday. She went from 75lbs to under 60lbs in a month and we have a bag packed in case there is an ER visit in our future. Yesterday, we figured out that she has a really bad urinary tract infection and started antibiotics. After a month of weighing her every morning and seeing a lower number day after day, she actually had almost a full meal last night (maybe her first in a month) and we at least saw the same number two days in a row. Hoping that this is the turning point and she starts to gain it back, but trying to not get too excited in case the UTI is just a red herring and actually has nothing to do with her appetite. Fingers crossed. Oh, and I, too, have co-workers that are completely useless and every time they ###### up, it makes it even harder for me to get a day off. Lazy stupid ######. Hope she continues to improve, Swamp! That's some serious weight loss. :( The healthcare system in Canada in general and in NS in particular ... it is somewhat better in other provinces, notably BC and Quebec. My wife has severe health issues that I have mentioned from time to time on here. She has an appointment with one of her Neurologists this coming Monday (16th) at 4:00 PM. She has been waiting a year. Anyway, she called to confirm her appointment on Tuesday as instructed. Of course, one can never actually speak with a real person and must leave a message. This morning someone called back and left a message (my wife often can't get to the phone) and said ... 'thank you for confirming your appointment for Monday the 16th at 4:00 PM. We have to change that appointment, since the Dr. is always in the hospital in the afternoon, to 11:20 AM on Monday the 16th'. No regard for the patient at all and what is involved in actually getting her to the appointment. And no regard to any conflicts in our schedule ... my wife often makes other appointments to see specialists on the same day as other appointments, as it is very difficult for her to get out to them ... the whole 2 birds thing. And spare me with the ... 'at least you don't have to pay in Canada' ... we pay alright, a whole hell of a lot. Thank you for listing we now return you to your regular scheduled ranting and raving about the Sabres. BOO doctors who care nothing for their patients' schedules. My dad has been dealing with something similar for months, and it sucks. My complaint is lame, but I'm just really effing tired after putting in outrageous hours the last two weeks just to try and keep my head above water. I'm exhausted and unmotivated right now, but the list is so dang long that I'm trying to power through and keep chipping away at it.
Ogre Posted October 13, 2017 Report Posted October 13, 2017 Good God Swamp, every time I think about your situation I wind up in a dusty room all of a sudden. I could not imagine anything harder to deal with. If you PM your name I would be honored to sponsor a mass in your family’s name. Your church. If don’t have one then mine. If you do then both.
Ogre Posted October 13, 2017 Report Posted October 13, 2017 Also, foreman lost no teeth. He’s actually a friend of mine. I wasn’t pinching for violence, just venting about a friend screwing up his life and hurting the rest of us along the way. I’m actually the steward and have been trying to cover for him. I know his wife and kids. They call me uncle iT. Some bad happened at the end of the day and he decided to leave things in turmoil. He has a problem but I have a duty. Tomorrow is going to be tough.
SwampD Posted October 13, 2017 Report Posted October 13, 2017 Good God Swamp, every time I think about your situation I wind up in a dusty room all of a sudden. I could not imagine anything harder to deal with. If you PM your name I would be honored to sponsor a mass in your family’s name. Your church. If don’t have one then mine. If you do then both. Thanks. And thanks to all. This place really is great. Pretty big turn around by the end of the day. She ate more food and more importantly, she drank a lot more water, and was actually happy. I knew there was no way God was taking her from us yet,… cuz then she'd be his problem. :lol:
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