korab rules Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 What is really disturbing is that the Tea Party protests were mocked and ridiculed for all the wrong reasons. Yet, if there were any arrests/crimes committed, they were few and far between. OTOH, a lot of the OWS protesters have been getting arrested left and right (no pun intended). Women have been raped by their fellow protesters, quasi-anarchy has been taking place at some of these protests, and all sorts of unlawfulness. Even if I am counted amongst the 99% when it comes to wages and net worth, I am not buying their rhetoric - nor their hypocrisy (especially when it comes to people like Michael Moore). As for other complaints, I am struggling to keep the mindset that when there was a changing of the guard when DR and Lindy first came on board, it took them a couple of years to get to the Stanley Cup Finals. Thus, with all of the chatter about how the team is or is not performing to par, it gets really hard to keep that focus that, with T-Pegs owning the team now, that it may be a few season before we're back to being a serious contender. Also, I don't think that what I'm about to say is worth starting another thread. Nonetheless, this complaint is the fact that I have been slow to listen to what the Lord has been showing me through His Word - especially with regard to the fact that my wife and I still don't have children (as I have mentioned here before). Both of us have made the mistake of making the assumption that maybe we're doing something wrong or that we would hope that if we did certain things, then maybe God would bless us with a child. Then, as I was pondering Scripture while driving and all of the accounts of childless couples, it finally hit me that God was being glorified throughout all of these accounts, and that He is also getting the glory for us not having children. It really brought me to tears because I was so foolish for not understanding this earlier. I don't expect anyone here to understand what I'm talking about. I just wanted to get this out in the open, given what I've said about the issue in the past. Maybe he is saving room for some of his other children already on this earth.
FogBat Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 XChecking, have you ever considered adoption? Thanks for asking. My wife and I have talked about it quite a bit. We're going to try to buy a house that has at least 3 bedrooms so we'll have the space for at least 2 kids. She wants a sibling group so they don't get broken up. At the same time, I need to find a job that will get me home daily. We want to adopt through the state; but if I stay over the road, they won't even consider us because, in their minds, I won't be home for them and I need to be present for what they call "home studies". It doesn't matter if I can financially support them. They want both prospective parents home on a daily basis.
korab rules Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 Thanks for asking. My wife and I have talked about it quite a bit. We're going to try to buy a house that has at least 3 bedrooms so we'll have the space for at least 2 kids. She wants a sibling group so they don't get broken up. At the same time, I need to find a job that will get me home daily. We want to adopt through the state; but if I stay over the road, they won't even consider us because, in their minds, I won't be home for them and I need to be present for what they call "home studies". It doesn't matter if I can financially support them. They want both prospective parents home on a daily basis. Are you sure this is all accurate or are you presuming? There are so many kids looking for homes that I think they have loosened some of the unwritten rules they used to follow, at least that's the case in NY. I don't know of any state that requires, by law, both parents to be home on a daily basis in order to consider them for adoption. That is certainly not the case in many traditional families. You need to be available for the home study, but that happens around your schedule.
frissonic Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 Are you sure this is all accurate or are you presuming? There are so many kids looking for homes that I think they have loosened some of the unwritten rules they used to follow, at least that's the case in NY. I don't know of any state that requires, by law, both parents to be home on a daily basis in order to consider them for adoption. That is certainly not the case in many traditional families. You need to be available for the home study, but that happens around your schedule. i know that, out here, the state requires both parents to be home on a regular basis. a lot of adoptions through a state are done through DCFS (department of child and family services ... might be the same in your state, might be called something else). a lot of the kids in the foster care system come from single-parent homes and some pretty messed up circumstances. i think that the state has that 'both parents home' thing in place to provide at least the appearance of an uber-stable home for kids getting adopted through the system. i know utah wasn't very lax about it. can't speak to other states, of course.
korab rules Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 i know that, out here, the state requires both parents to be home on a regular basis. a lot of adoptions through a state are done through DCFS (department of child and family services ... might be the same in your state, might be called something else). a lot of the kids in the foster care system come from single-parent homes and some pretty messed up circumstances. i think that the state has that 'both parents home' thing in place to provide at least the appearance of an uber-stable home for kids getting adopted through the system. i know utah wasn't very lax about it. can't speak to other states, of course. I here what you are saying, but I would bet those are local interpretations by the county, not laws. I know that there is no such legal requirement to approve a family for adoption in NY.
FogBat Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 Are you sure this is all accurate or are you presuming? There are so many kids looking for homes that I think they have loosened some of the unwritten rules they used to follow, at least that's the case in NY. I don't know of any state that requires, by law, both parents to be home on a daily basis in order to consider them for adoption. That is certainly not the case in many traditional families. You need to be available for the home study, but that happens around your schedule. My wife has done considerable research about this, especially for Alabama. The long of it and the short of it is that the respective state agency wants to make sure that the kids go into stable homes. Furthermore, it has to be on their schedule, not mine. Thus, if I can get with a company that will get me home daily, I am hoping that the company will at least work with me on that - especially with the hours that the home studies take place.
shrader Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 I understand. And I think it is the correct perspective. Keep on keepin' on. If I have any regret in life, it is that I didn't seriously consider adoption when we were young enough that it made sense. We have one healthy, vibrant teenage child. We wanted more. Without going into details, it never happened. We both wish we'd have opened our minds to the idea of adoption back then. Crosschecking, consider adoption. Adopting a child doesn't mean you have to stop hoping for children from your own lineage. It's funny how these things work. My parents initially thought they couldn't have any kids so they adopted my older brother. Suddenly 5 years later they had my other brother. Then about 2 years later I showed up. The story my parents always told (and XChecking will enjoy this one) is that my oldest brother always used to pray for a little brother. He finally got one and kept going. But once I was born, he had had enough and immediately stopped.
frissonic Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 I here what you are saying, but I would bet those are local interpretations by the county, not laws. I know that there is no such legal requirement to approve a family for adoption in NY. a legal requirement, no. however, it is a strongly enforced policy. we've been working with DCFS for about 5 years. and i'm pretty sure they're state mandates because we adopted through the state--not the county. though in the interest of full disclosure, i know that california's state policies differ drastically from utah's, so it wouldn't surprise me that NY's regs are different as well. there's no fedearl guideline as how to handle state-sponsored adoptions, so there will be different policies. i would be willing to bet that NY smiles favorably on single-parent adoptions, whereas out here, everything possible is done to place kids with two-parent, mom-and-dad homes. laws? no. policies? definitely. and vigorously enforced.
Bmwolf21 Posted November 17, 2011 Report Posted November 17, 2011 This week has been my first all out physical activity in about 3 months thanks to the knee injury. I'm stubborn enough that I have to try to pick up exactly where I left off. My first hockey game on Tuesday was the disaster I expected it to be (but I did score on a nice deflection of a point shot). Thanks to everything over the last 3 days, I'm sore as hell right now. I'm going to go with that "wrong side of 30" cliche because my recovery time is now timed with a sundial. I've been having problems with my left hamstring on and off for the last 2-3 months. It knots up and feels like it going to pop whenever I run. I rest it, it gets better, then it re-aggravates. Finally had enough and went to the doc today and he is sending me for PT. I asked for the MRI but he said not yet, let's see what the PT folks say. It's so frustrating.
FogBat Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 It's funny how these things work. My parents initially thought they couldn't have any kids so they adopted my older brother. Suddenly 5 years later they had my other brother. Then about 2 years later I showed up. The story my parents always told (and XChecking will enjoy this one) is that my oldest brother always used to pray for a little brother. He finally got one and kept going. But once I was born, he had had enough and immediately stopped. Kids... :rolleyes:
FogBat Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 I understand. And I think it is the correct perspective. Keep on keepin' on. If I have any regret in life, it is that I didn't seriously consider adoption when we were young enough that it made sense. We have one healthy, vibrant teenage child. We wanted more. Without going into details, it never happened. We both wish we'd have opened our minds to the idea of adoption back then. Crosschecking, consider adoption. Adopting a child doesn't mean you have to stop hoping for children from your own lineage. +1 Thanks for the advice. As I said earlier, my wife and I have talked about it a lot lately. We just have to overcome some obstacles which I stated earlier today. As for lineage, it's all in God's hands. It may very well be in His plan for us not to have biological children, and I have come to accept that if that turns out to be the case.
ROC Sabres Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 F*cking snow. Dammit. Best part of the year if you ask me. Get to watch everyone in an SUV/pickups thinking the laws of physics don't apply to them as they go flying off the road. 1
darksabre Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 Best part of the year if you ask me. Get to watch everyone in an SUV/pickups thinking the laws of physics don't apply to them as they go flying off the road. I see more subarus in ditches than any other car.
Eleven Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 Best part of the year if you ask me. Get to watch everyone in an SUV/pickups thinking the laws of physics don't apply to them as they go flying off the road. Can't get to Dec. 21 soon enough. I really don't like darkness or snow. And we have both in spades between November and January in Buffalo. I can handle snow in March, when there's light; I can't handle it when the daylight wanes. As for XC: Look into it. It will not be a disappointment. It will be a child that you love. As for the thread: Three out of four nights working until 11 (I do like that number, though) are done. One more, tomorrow.
Ghost of Dwight Drane Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 Way to be guys....nice to see some stories and support for X-Checking. Cross...I can't have kids naturally. I had testicular cancer and froze my sperm before any treatment. When I did so I learned I had sperm, but not enough to get someone pregnant. If I want a child, I have to do the petri-dish route, which is not an easy decision for me to make if it gets to that point. Adoption is a fine route in my opinion. Not to seem slight, but I look at it sort of like rescuing a dog from the pound instead of paying hundreds of dollars for a purebred. All children are innocents, and if you can enrich the life of a little one and have unconditional love instead of focusing on a child having your genes....then I think you do everyone a service. My cousins adopted children from Poland. They worked through an agency in the US and the kids are so loving that I don't care who they were born from...they are my cousins. Only problem is I have to buy them new Bills jerseys for Christmas because I gave them Posluszny jerseys a few years ago. Fitzpatrick doesn't exactaly ring Polish, so I have to work on it..... 3
Taro T Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 Way to be guys....nice to see some stories and support for X-Checking. Cross...I can't have kids naturally. I had testicular cancer and froze my sperm before any treatment. When I did so I learned I had sperm, but not enough to get someone pregnant. If I want a child, I have to do the petri-dish route, which is not an easy decision for me to make if it gets to that point. Adoption is a fine route in my opinion. Not to seem slight, but I look at it sort of like rescuing a dog from the pound instead of paying hundreds of dollars for a purebred. All children are innocents, and if you can enrich the life of a little one and have unconditional love instead of focusing on a child having your genes....then I think you do everyone a service. My cousins adopted children from Poland. They worked through an agency in the US and the kids are so loving that I don't care who they were born from...they are my cousins. Only problem is I have to buy them new Bills jerseys for Christmas because I gave them Posluszny jerseys a few years ago. Fitzpatrick doesn't exactaly ring Polish, so I have to work on it..... ######, you're Vanek man's uncle once removed? Or is that 2nd cousin? Never did get the hang of this genealical stuff. ;) XC - good luck w/ it. FWIW, I've had several relatives that have adopted and they have shown as much love towards their kids as any I've seen. If that's the route you have to go, I'm sure it will work out. I've also had friends that have adopted older siblings due to their parents thinking that they couldn't have their own, but it turns out that they actually could have their own (similar to Shrader's situation, but for some reason my friend's parents didn't stop after them; not sure what HIS issue is ;)). And those situations worked out also. And finally for a complaint; it's after 3AM, why the ###### isn't this thread closed. Chz, you're slipping (aaaaagain).
darksabre Posted November 18, 2011 Report Posted November 18, 2011 My neighbors adopted two kids from Columbia about 12 years ago now. The father is Greek so his kids look like him anyway :D
LabattBlue Posted November 18, 2011 Author Report Posted November 18, 2011 WJYE(96.1 in Buffalo) already playing non-stop Xmas music. Don't know when they started. Just know it is too damn early.
shrader Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 Tomorrow is not a day for complaints so I'm bumping this up one day. If you don't like it, shut it down (which would give me another complaint). I'm really not looking forward to driving to Buffalo tonight with a potential downpour out here in MA. That will slow things down quite a bit. I'm not even sure yet how bad the traffic could be even without that added nuisance. And also, my hockey beer league switched over to this new website that actually keeps track of everything, stats and all. I had my first game back from the knee surgery last week and actually managed to score on a nice deflection of a point shot. I really don't care too much, but I decided to look on that website today to see my epic goal scoring stats. They didn't even give me that goal! Even worse, since I deflected a shot from the point, the defenseman would be the logical choice for who it was awarded to, right? No, they gave it to another forward who was over on the boards nowhere near the puck.
dEnnis the Menace Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 Tomorrow is not a day for complaints so I'm bumping this up one day. If you don't like it, shut it down (which would give me another complaint). I'm really not looking forward to driving to Buffalo tonight with a potential downpour out here in MA. That will slow things down quite a bit. I'm not even sure yet how bad the traffic could be even without that added nuisance. And also, my hockey beer league switched over to this new website that actually keeps track of everything, stats and all. I had my first game back from the knee surgery last week and actually managed to score on a nice deflection of a point shot. I really don't care too much, but I decided to look on that website today to see my epic goal scoring stats. They didn't even give me that goal! Even worse, since I deflected a shot from the point, the defenseman would be the logical choice for who it was awarded to, right? No, they gave it to another forward who was over on the boards nowhere near the puck. Not gonna lie, the drive is probably going to suck. The news this morning was saying that the next few days are some of the MOST traveled during the year, only being beat by one or two other holidays. Sorry...that probably doesn't help you any...but just being honest. And not getting your goal awarded blows. My complaint: the bad bronchitis I had last week forced me to use my last 2 days off for the year, and I had saved those days for this week and the week after xmas so that I could have really long weekends around the holidays, but nooooo, now I have no more days off, and I'm stuck here today with only half the company around...and of course it's the half that matters (upper management).
Bmwolf21 Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 Have to work tonight until closing (10) so I am not happy about having to start my "long weekend" late tonight.
biodork Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 My boss rescheduled our conference call from 1pm to 3pm today. So much for leaving early.
Claude_Verret Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 My boss rescheduled our conference call from 1pm to 3pm today. So much for leaving early. Wow. That's just brutal. I don't think I've worked anywhere when my boss hasn't been pushing me out the door come noon on the day before Thanksgiving.
Sabre Dance Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 Congress. Actually, just about anything government-related. I'm beginning to think that with the internet as it is, we restrict Congress to drafting legislation and then letting the general public vote on it online. I don't think things would be any worse and might even get better..... 2
Wyldnwoody44 Posted November 23, 2011 Report Posted November 23, 2011 My complaint is treating patients at ecmc that are transported from prison. We waste all this money on top notch services plus transportation plus having 2-3 sherrifs escort them and chauffeur them all day, just to cast their broken wrist they got in a shower fight. I enjoy treating people, and prisoners should get treatment......in prison, and not by world renound specialists. Rant over
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