Festivus Frank wasn't soft and gentle, he just hated the commercialization of Christmas. I've been trying to think of examples to support your claim. I came up with Frank going into the computer business and hiring his son, somewhat proudly, to be his salesman. Almost sentimental there. He did agree with Estelle once that Susan's parents deliberately didn't put out the marble rye, which forestalled another car argument. Still... not soft and gentle. He wistfully remembered his Korean lover before miraculously being reunited with her — then proceeded to stop short with her. I proclaim Frank possessed zero softness and gentleness.